Dear Reader…
I have written two psychological/ spiritual books now, one
published by a traditional publisher and one self-published with a small local
press. When I began writing, I did not expect either of these writing projects
to turn into books.
You might be surprised to
learn, even after writing two books, that I have never considered myself a
writer. Rather, I have always had an
avid interest in inner realities. I have been a teacher, a researcher and
explorer of the stuff of inner life— a “phenomenologist,” some people would
say.
In fact, after my first book
was published, I swore I would never write another. Putting a nonfiction
book together that arises from your own depths is a consuming and arduous
labor. But, I was wrong!
My last book was born after my
long-time partner abruptly left me without notice a few weeks before a big
wedding we had planned. The impact of this shock surprised me: it took me
down into the worst suffering of my life.
The more the pain intensified (it
worsened as time went on), the more I was compelled sit at my desk and write.
There I would hear the voice of a wise, warrior woman translating the
disbelief, outrage, hurt and grief into words. Her words poured out onto the
page with insights and wisdom that soothed, comforted and guided me. In
this way, within a few months I had more than 200 pages.
Reading
over what had come through in this “flow” writing, a nagging sense of
responsibility welled up to share what I had been given with others. But I
immediately thought, “Oh, no, that means another book!?!” Four years and six edits later, sure enough,
I had Love and the Mystery of Betrayal in
hand.
In this book, writing from
the inside out, I dive into the existential shock and spiritual crisis of the
little understood impact of deception and betrayal. Making this descent
accessible to others — the shame, the
madness and the mystery of a heart and soul broken by betrayal — was a labor of
love.
As Emily Dickinson said, “If
I can save one heart from breaking… If I can ease one life the aching/ or cool
one pain… I shall not live in vain.” I wish for this book to find its way
into the hands of those of you who are trying to come to terms with and to heal
the shocking reality of betrayal in your world.
When you are a writer,
feedback and reviews offer a kind of lifeblood and encouragement after months
and years spent alone writing. Since the original publication of the book, I
have received so many gratifying notes and reviews, that I have released a
second edition to help the book make it into the hands of more people.
To help even one other person, this is why we write! I can still remember after one of my first
reviews, realizing — that is it: this is the reason I wrote this book! To touch
even one person this way was worth all that time and effort.
I want to share it
with you: “This
is the first time I have written a review, and from the bottom of my heart,
Sandra, THANK YOU… Two years ago, my husband of 18 years abandoned me and my
two children…I have read many, many books on infidelity, and your book stands
out. I am buying copies for family and friends so they can finally understand
what I am grappling with. For anyone who has been through betrayal…this would
be the first book I recommend people read.”
About the Author
Sandra’s writings bridge the world of scholar and visionary. She loves to bring light to those subtle interior spheres that defy description, and can appear frightening or unreal to the logical mind. Her deep-diving explorations have helped many to “translate their darkness” — to name and bring compassion to their grief, anger, confusion and pain.
She was a teacher in the Gurdjieff tradition for many years, an Ananda Yoga instructor, and a long-time student of Diamond Heart work. Currently, she is enjoying life in the Bay Area.
Website
Address: www.sandraleedennis.com
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About the Book:
Betrayal
of love inflicts a unique, unprecedented pain you can only comprehend once you
have experienced it. If you are suffering from an intimate betrayal, you know.
Betrayal is stunning. It is mind-boggling. You feel paralyzed, mystified,
enraged, panicked, bewildered; but, mostly, you hurt. Betrayal is a
make-or-break event that marks a cataclysmic divide in your life. It changes
you. When you believe in someone so completely and then realize they have been
deceiving you about their love and loyalty, the worst thing happens: Your faith
in yourself crumbles. The shock lifts a veil from your eyes, and you can never
see yourself or the world in the same way again.
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